A Little Expertise. A Lot of Humanity.
I've spent much of my life fascinated by the complicated, contradictory, occasionally baffling business of being human.
Why we do what we do. Why we say one thing and mean another. Why we can't say what we mean. And why, despite our best intentions, we repeat patterns we know aren't working.
My academic background includes both undergraduate and graduate degrees in Communication Studies, where I developed a deep understanding of human communication and relationships; the ways we connect—or disconnect—with one another.
But my education didn't stop, or begin, in the classroom.
For more than two decades, I've been deeply involved in 12-step communities focused on relationships, codependency, love addiction, and attachment. That experience has given me an intimate understanding of the ways we seek connection—sometimes in all the wrong places—lose ourselves in relationships, and often confuse intensity with intimacy.
It's also taught me something essential: understanding our patterns is one thing. Learning to change them—especially when our emotions, fears, and deeply ingrained beliefs get involved—is quite another. In my own journey, I've learned that shame is a remarkably ineffective teacher. Compassion, honesty, and accountability tend to get us much further.
As a certified coach, my approach draws on a variety of psychological frameworks and practical modalities, including principles from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Internal Family Systems, Somatic practices, and parts work (oh, that inner child! Damn, that teenager who keeps acting out!).
The Lab is a judgment-free zone. We already have enough militant voices in our heads; we don't need another one telling us everything we're doing wrong. But make no mistake: compassion doesn't mean lowering expectations. We do the work. We develop practical skills, challenge familiar patterns, and turn insight into action.
I believe that meaningful change doesn't come from beating ourselves into becoming better people.
It comes from understanding ourselves well enough—and treating ourselves with enough compassion—to begin doing things differently.
For decades (literally!) I was so stuck and in chaos in all areas of my life: work, marriage, and unhealthy “friendships”. I couldn’t figure out how to get out. I knew from years of therapy I am codependent. I understand why/how, but didn’t know how to change. Working with Randi I learned that I am not alone, and this is not uncommon. and she has taught me so many tools to start living for me. My self esteem is back!
The past five years my life has changed so much and I can finally see the sunlight. My friends are noticing the changes in my personality and joy. There’s no coincidence that is how long I’ve been working with Randi. One of the best parts is that I know without a shadow of a doubt she has MY best interest at heart.
Working with her has been one of the most impactful things I’ve done in my life.
Sara F.
“I have been working with Randi for the last 2 years and she has been an invaluable guide on my journey towards personal growth and self-discovery.
She possesses a unique ability to listen attentively, ask insightful questions, and provide constructive feedback. She has helped me navigate challenges, set meaningful goals, and develop strategies to achieve them. The impact of our sessions extends beyond the coaching room, positively influencing various aspects of my life.
Randi is not only a skilled professional but also a compassionate individual who genuinely cares about the well-being and success of her clients. I confidently recommend her as a life coach to anyone seeking positive transformation and personal development.”
Adrian A.